Hobbies
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To start this off, this blog idea came after a good gardening sesh! I wanted to talk about one of my New Year’s resolutions, and that was to be more intentional with my time. Doing things that make me happy. I think the happiest people have hobbies. Now what is a hobby? It’s anything you do regularly in your downtime that makes you happy. If someone asked you what your hobbies are… what would you say? And this isn’t to judge anyone because for some time I didn’t have an answer either. I never realized I didn’t have hobbies and because this is a safe space I will be honest and say for a while the only hobby I had was smoking. Now? I have a bunch that line up with the person I’m becoming, some I will share; others belong to me only. The first hobby that started it all for me? The gym. Something about setting time out of your day to spend an hour focused on you and you only is such a satisfying feeling. I dabble in other things, music, reading, crocheting, coloring, tarot. I think most people think that if you’re not perfect at something from the beginning it’s not worth it, I also think society has a funny way of making you feel that if you can’t turn a hobby into some sort of side hustle or something that can gain you, followers, then it’s not worth the time. Sometimes I think back to when I was a child and all the things I used to do simply because I had the free time and how I lost them along the way. And maybe you’re reading this right now and can’t relate at all and if that’s the case... why are you here???
One big hobby that I lost along the way was writing. Did you guys know I have a bachelor’s degree in English (minor in Theater we love the dramatics) … And I’m writing to ya FOR FREE (you’re welcome). I genuinely enjoy it though every time I post a new blog it makes me feel like I’m healing my inner child. To give you a little back story, one of my favorite shows of all time is Charmed and one of the main characters Phoebe worked for a paper where she had her own advice column. It was called Ask Phoebe (iykyk) and that always resonated with me. In the show, she was an empath and that’s what made her column so good. I always felt like I had similar gifts (even though Piper was my favorite) so doing this blog and connecting with people and speaking about topics that I feel others can relate to makes me happy. ALSO, it makes me feel like I’m using my degree instead of feeling like I wasted four years of my life, even though the way I write has never been grammatically correct. If my professors could read this now, they would say “And this is why she use to get C’s on her papers” I like writing how I speak, but look at me not using MLA format and not giving a f*ck. I also got way off-topic which is probably another reason I used to get C’s on my writing. The material was there, but my brain has about sixteen different things it wants to say all at once…
aNyWays back to hobbies. About 15% of people don’t have hobbies, 67% have multiple hobbies and 18% have one hobby they do regularly. What stops you from having hobbies? I always thought I didn’t have the time for them and then I realized how much of my free time is spent doom scrolling. I often think about how people lived before the inventions of cell phones and social media and how much of my time is spent online consuming other people’s lives instead of living my own, and fyi just because you don’t post often doesn’t make you any less guilty of this. I think that’s what I find so fascinating about this blog, it has easy access while simultaneously being productive. Instead of SCROLLING, you are READING, look at us helping each other be better ;]
I’m sharing this because having hobbies has made me feel aligned. We all wear so many titles in our day-to-day lives; we are different things to different people. We work, care for our families, friends, partners, and kids, and often neglect ourselves. If you are feeling lost or sad, especially during the winter, try picking up a new hobby. Having activities that I simply do for my benefit only has done wonders for my mental health. Things that help me grow and expand into this new version of myself while connecting to past versions of me. What are some hobbies you guys have or have been wanting to pick up? I hope this week’s blog inspired you to dig a little deeper and to spend more intentional time with yourself. As always thank you for reading and sharing.
With love and gratitude always,
Your Earth Angel,
Amethyst
2025 …
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It's officially 2025, you made it! I just want to say to anyone reading that I’m proud of you! We survived so much. I really just want everyone to take a moment to reflect on how far they’ve come. As the year came to an end so many people highlighted all they’ve accomplished while some mourned all that they lost. I’m holding space for everyone. Life has some incredible highs and even lower lows. I want to remind everyone that even though we are in a New Year we are still in the dead of winter. Most people think that because it’s the “New Year” you have to do so much and accomplish so much and while it is good to have plans and goals things might not pick up till the Spring when the astrological new year (the actual new year) begins. I want to remind everyone this isn't the time for action, this is still the time to set intentions. A time for planning and planting seeds, but we’re still hibernating. So, if you woke up today and that thing happened where nothing feels different it’s because it isn’t. Don’t worry things will start to bloom in the Spring and so will you.
For my first post in 2025 I wanted to just say thank you. I’m blessed in so many ways, first and foremost my health, my family, my relationship, my kitties and you guys. Yes, to anyone here right now thank you. I’m so grateful to the people who have read, reposted and supported my blog. When I first dropped my blog I was absolutely terrified of how everything would turn out. Who would support? Would I even be supported? Is what I have to say important? If you take anything away from this blog it should be to do the scary thing. To bet on yourself always. In 2025 I invite you to do the things that make you feel whole. I challenge you to show up for yourself every day, to set goals and to stick to them. I also challenge you to prioritize rest and recovery, do hobbies and doing things simply because they make you happy. Above all else, I’m wishing health, love, happiness and most importantly peace to everyone reading. I hope for all my Angels that 2025 is kind to you, I hope you find your way and focus on the journey instead of the destination. I hope you come back home to yourself time and time again, and whenever you feel like you’ve lost your way, I hope you know you always have a place right here.
With love and gratitude always,
Your Earth Angel Amethyst
Ending the year right with yourself
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Two blogs in the same month? I’m really outdoing myself here. For this week’s blog topic, I felt called to ask what people wanted to read about or if there was anything anyone needed advice on or wanted my hot take about and let me tell you my dm’s were absolutely empty. So, thank you guys for NOTHING, we are building a community here so next time I ask something… I’m expecting an answer. I can’t be the only one doing all the heavy lifting here (literally rolling my eyes at ya). However, we did get one person who suggested a topic and she’s carrying the whole team (you know who you are and this one’s for you.) I was given the suggestion to write about how to end the year right with yourself, and honestly if anyone knows how to do this can you let me know??? I feel like I have an idea so I’m going to tell you what’s been working for me. If you are active on social media, then you know all the girlies are participating in what is called “Winter Arc.” Now what is Winter Arc? I’m so glad you asked… it’s basically ending the year on a high note, instead of waiting for the “new year, new me” you get a head start on what you would be saving for your new year’s resolution, and instead of waiting for the new year, you start now.
When I think of ending the year right with myself, I think about what has been working for me and what hasn’t. This is the part where I create a safe space and expose my ass and list out all my bad habits and incorporate the ways I’m trying to be better (we listen, and we don’t judge.) I think a major theme I’ve been noticing within myself is not keeping my promises to myself when I say I’m going to do something. A big example of this is my commitment to the gym. When I wake up in the morning the first thing, I grab is my phone, crusties in the eyes and all and just doom scroll. I skip breakfast (like a lot.) I was paying for my gym membership every month and made no effort to go. My excuse? “I’m listening to my body, and it needs rest.” Like girl that only works when you’re actually doing things, not spending like 40 minutes just scrolling through TikTok. And honestly, I’m going to leave it at that we’ll be here till next year just pointing out some of the ways I’ve fallen short.
I think the first step to ending the year right is actually sitting with yourself and being honest with the areas that you are lacking. Do you say you’re going to do something and just end up not doing it? I don’t know about the rest of you, but I actually never gave much thought on the areas of my life where I can be better like pen to paper, journaling type shit. Then in the same space I thought about my future self and what I want her to look like. Have you ever gotten really specific about who you want to be? I had to start thinking about Amethyst 2.0. What habits does she have? What music is she listening to? How does she go about her day? Does she say she’s going to do something and then not follow through? Or does she show up for herself even when it’s hard? I think most of us spend our days going through the motions of life and not being intentional. We’re so busy with our day to day lives, that we actually forget to check in with ourselves on a deeper level. I knew the things I wanted to be doing, and I just knew I wasn’t doing them. I never made an effort to find out where the disconnect came from. I also understand that most people don’t have the luxury of worrying about themselves or having a moment to think, some people are battling more so if the only thing you do this year is just get through it, I’m still proud of you. But for people like me who don’t really have an excuse I really wanted to get to the bottom of who I’d like to be going forward. So how do we end the year right with ourselves? Stop making excuses. If you want to do something, just do it. Every day you wake up is an opportunity to be better, to do better. So, what have I been doing? Limiting my screen time, not giving in to distractions, and most importantly holding myself accountable. Unless I’m physically unwell, I have no excuse to not get up and go to the gym and believe me it’s been hard with the cold weather, but I have to push myself and do things even though I don’t always feel like doing them, discipline over motivation. I have also changed the tone around it. Instead of saying I have to I now say I get to. Instead of picking up my phone to get on social media, I pick up my phone and put on a meditation. I make sure I have at least one thing in my stomach before I walk out the door and drown myself in pre-workout. I also think it’s important to get rid of any limiting beliefs; we are ever changing and evolving and if you wake up tomorrow and decide you want to be someone completely different you can and you should. Stop doing the same things you always do, give yourself permission to spice things up a bit. The most important thing of all is being kind to yourself, not every day will you be able to achieve some big accomplishment sometimes the only accomplishment will be making it out of bed that morning and that is okay too. Ending the year right will be personal and look different for everyone. I want you guys to think of the ways you’ve shown up for yourself this year and how you would like to show up going into the new year. This is the part where you take a moment to sit and reflect. It would be nice if you guys commented below, and if not it’s okay we’ll chat about it next time. If you guys would like more of my take on this, I’d be happy to do a follow up, and if you have any questions or need some advice or motivation you know where to find me.
Thank you for reading and thank you for sharing in advance 🤍✨
With love and gratitude always,
Your Earth Angel Amethyst
Mercury Retrograde
It’s the most wonderful time of the yearrrrrr, yet most people I’ve been catching up with are having a really hard time. I think I speak for all of us when I say the last few months of 2024 have been a rocky one and if it hasn’t been, congratulations! How does it feel to be God’s favorite?
On a serious note, Mercury went Reggaeton (iykyk) on November 25th and will be in retrograde until December 15th. Now what is a retrograde? A retrograde occurs when a planet seems to be moving in the opposite direction of how it usually moves so essentially it appears to be moving backwards from our point of view here on Earth. Now I’m not here to talk about if the science of that is true because all I know is that when any planet is retrograde as a collective we all feel it.
If you’re into astrology then you know that retrogrades symbolize a time of slowing down, reflection, and past situations coming up. From old memories, feelings, emotions, and even actual people from your past showing back up. It’s also a time of pausing, taking things slow, and looking inward. Have you changed in the last year? Are you stuck in the same cycles you’ve been in? Are you still doing that thing you told yourself you would stop doing like six months ago? Well if you are, buckle up buttercup and prepare for the universe to drag you.
Now I’m not saying retrogrades are necessarily a bad thing, they’re beneficial. It’s a time to take note of what’s working in your life and what is no longer serving you. Mercury is the planet of technology, travel, and communication. You know how you overslept cause your alarm didn’t go off? Retrograde. You know how you accidentally lost all your work on Microsoft Word cause your computer died and you didn’t save it? Retrograde. You know that ex that you haven’t spoken to in like two years that just texted you out of the blue? Retrograde.
During a retrograde it is very important to detach, expectations should be low, and be prepared for shit to hit the fan ESPECIALLY if you haven’t been doing your inner work. All this means is you’ll have to face certain things you have most likely been avoiding. Miss Universe has been giving you the chance to do it on your own terms, and if you haven’t well let's just say she’s gonna take care of it for you. Sometimes we need to be pushed out of our comfort zone in order to see things from a different perspective, at this time you should just take a breath and trust that the Universe has your best interest at heart. Even if things feel like they are falling apart, they are actually falling together. Whatever is coming up must be felt and released. You should also be mindful of falling back into old toxic behaviors and situations. If it didn’t work out the first time, let’s not try it again. I think this Mercury Retrograde occurring right before the new year is pretty poetic and it's in the sign of Sagittarius so now is a great time to look inward and take into account what’s been working for you and what hasn't. Have you been feeling the energy lately? How have you guys been doing in general?
With love and gratitude always,
Your Earth Angel Amethyst 🤍✨
The need for validation
I feel like a lot of things are coming up for me, past triggers are presenting themselves, and old wounds that I’m constantly working through. Mercury is officially retrograde.This is the time for a lot of reflecting and clearing out which is what i’ve been up to lately.I want this blog to be a safe space. To do that and create some safety I must be vulnerable first. So here it goes… I have a painful need for validation (probably a childhood wound). I feel like most of my life I’ve been surrounded by people who are dedicated to misunderstanding me. And listen I understand it’s no one else’s job to validate the person I am. I take full responsibility for this considering I stayed in certain friendships/relationships out of the need to “prove” I was a good partner or friend when I honestly should’ve ended them. I feel like this is a theme that comes up often for me, almost like I’m constantly experiencing the same kind of people. So that’s what I’m still working through at my big ole age of 27, and what better way to face a problem than to expose it on the internet? 😂 Lately with my whole blog and tarot and just putting myself out there more it's coming up again. I can see people tuning in. I see the page views, however there’s a lack of support except for my family and partner. It also isn’t anyone’s responsibility to support me. That’s just me expecting people to be like me, and I know the ways I’ve supported others. But the truth is, no one is me, and expecting people to show love in the same ways I have leads to disappointment. To say it doesn’t bother me would be a lie, but it comes with putting yourself out there. You can’t do things with an expectation that people will support you and as long as I’m happy with what I’m doing and enjoy it that’s all that matters. Me expecting people to reshare my blog or even reach out to me for tarot readings is just putting power in other people’s hands which isn’t conducive to what I'm trying to do here. I share this because I think most of us don’t pursue the things we truly want out of fear of no support. God knows I took so long to bring this blog to life out of fear no one would even visit or care. Well at least now I know people have been visiting. And don’t get me wrong there are a few people who reached out to support and congratulate me. Can I count them on one hand? Yes. Was the majority my immediate family? Also yes, but we’re breaking cycles here guys.
These things are meant to come up and be cleared, that’s usually what retrograde is about, reflecting and reevaluating. Seeing the things that work and what doesn’t. I’ve had enough synchronicities in life to let me know this is what I’m meant to be doing (something with my Virgo rising). I’ve also learned that showing up as my authentic self encourages others to do the same. So if at least one person is inspired by this blog that’ll be enough for me. I don’t need anyone else’s applause, I’ll continue cheering for myself. Also having a supportive family and partner helps a ton.
Today is the 8/8/8 Lions portal. A perfect opportunity to invite in new things and manifest the life you want for yourself. It’s an opportunity to step into our true potential. So during this powerful time I invite in confidence for myself and my endeavors. I invite in people who lift me up and support me. I will do everything I am meant to do because I trust God and the universe. With this blog, I hope to inspire others on their path and be a guiding light on people journey’s back home to themselves as I do the same. I’ve opened up my comments in case anyone would like to share themselves and I’m hoping some will feel safe enough to do so. If not now then hopefully eventually I can build a community of like-minded people just trying to find their place in the world and maybe we can help each other along the way
What will you be letting go of this mercury retrograde?? What will you be inviting in under this Lion’s gate portal? As always thanks for stopping by
Your Earth Angel,
Amethyst
The 26 things I’ve learned at 26
It all begins with an idea.
Don’t worry about losing other people, worry about losing yourself while trying to please other people.
Nothing last forever (a beauty and a curse)
Being authentically yourself helps everyone around you
Finding gratitude will change your life
Sometimes you have to let go of old things in order to make room for new things
When you need to recharge, get out in nature
Your comfort zone is a great place, but nothing ever grows there
Life does not have to be so serious all the time
How people treat you has nothing to do with you
I’m not my thoughts I’m just an observer
We know you can do it yourself, but you don’t have to
ALWAYS listen to your gut
When people aren’t right for you, you’ll know
Life is too short, do the thing you’ve been wanting to do
The person judging you harshly is yourself
When in doubt, smoke it out
If you wouldn’t say that to your loved one, don’t say it to yourself
Take that vacation (girl you better take that flight)
Say what you feel even when you think it won’t make a difference (let it out)
You never know what your story might do for another (share yourself with others)
Don’t’ strive for a perfect life, strive for a meaningful one
Never take advice from someone you have no interest in being like
There is a wounded child in all of us, be kind
As you get older, so do the people around you. Spend that quality time
You are a magical being living a human experience
Everything is working out for your highest good, if things fall apart let them. Trust the universe and most importantly trust yourself