Ending the year right with yourself

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Two blogs in the same month? I’m really outdoing myself here. For this week’s blog topic, I felt called to ask what people wanted to read about or if there was anything anyone needed advice on or wanted my hot take about and let me tell you my dm’s were absolutely empty. So, thank you guys for NOTHING, we are building a community here so next time I ask something… I’m expecting an answer. I can’t be the only one doing all the heavy lifting here (literally rolling my eyes at ya). However, we did get one person who suggested a topic and she’s carrying the whole team (you know who you are and this one’s for you.) I was given the suggestion to write about how to end the year right with yourself, and honestly if anyone knows how to do this can you let me know??? I feel like I have an idea so I’m going to tell you what’s been working for me. If you are active on social media, then you know all the girlies are participating in what is called “Winter Arc.” Now what is Winter Arc? I’m so glad you asked… it’s basically ending the year on a high note, instead of waiting for the “new year, new me” you get a head start on what you would be saving for your new year’s resolution, and instead of waiting for the new year, you start now.

When I think of ending the year right with myself, I think about what has been working for me and what hasn’t. This is the part where I create a safe space and expose my ass and list out all my bad habits and incorporate the ways I’m trying to be better (we listen, and we don’t judge.) I think a major theme I’ve been noticing within myself is not keeping my promises to myself when I say I’m going to do something. A big example of this is my commitment to the gym. When I wake up in the morning the first thing, I grab is my phone, crusties in the eyes and all and just doom scroll. I skip breakfast (like a lot.) I was paying for my gym membership every month and made no effort to go. My excuse? “I’m listening to my body, and it needs rest.” Like girl that only works when you’re actually doing things, not spending like 40 minutes just scrolling through TikTok. And honestly, I’m going to leave it at that we’ll be here till next year just pointing out some of the ways I’ve fallen short.

I think the first step to ending the year right is actually sitting with yourself and being honest with the areas that you are lacking. Do you say you’re going to do something and just end up not doing it? I don’t know about the rest of you, but I actually never gave much thought on the areas of my life where I can be better like pen to paper, journaling type shit. Then in the same space I thought about my future self and what I want her to look like. Have you ever gotten really specific about who you want to be?  I had to start thinking about Amethyst 2.0. What habits does she have? What music is she listening to? How does she go about her day? Does she say she’s going to do something and then not follow through? Or does she show up for herself even when it’s hard? I think most of us spend our days going through the motions of life and not being intentional. We’re so busy with our day to day lives, that we actually forget to check in with ourselves on a deeper level. I knew the things I wanted to be doing, and I just knew I wasn’t doing them. I never made an effort to find out where the disconnect came from. I also understand that most people don’t have the luxury of worrying about themselves or having a moment to think, some people are battling more so if the only thing you do this year is just get through it, I’m still proud of you. But for people like me who don’t really have an excuse I really wanted to get to the bottom of who I’d like to be going forward. So how do we end the year right with ourselves? Stop making excuses. If you want to do something, just do it. Every day you wake up is an opportunity to be better, to do better. So, what have I been doing? Limiting my screen time, not giving in to distractions, and most importantly holding myself accountable. Unless I’m physically unwell, I have no excuse to not get up and go to the gym and believe me it’s been hard with the cold weather, but I have to push myself and do things even though I don’t always feel like doing them, discipline over motivation. I have also changed the tone around it. Instead of saying I have to I now say I get to. Instead of picking up my phone to get on social media, I pick up my phone and put on a meditation. I make sure I have at least one thing in my stomach before I walk out the door and drown myself in pre-workout. I also think it’s important to get rid of any limiting beliefs; we are ever changing and evolving and if you wake up tomorrow and decide you want to be someone completely different you can and you should. Stop doing the same things you always do, give yourself permission to spice things up a bit. The most important thing of all is being kind to yourself, not every day will you be able to achieve some big accomplishment sometimes the only accomplishment will be making it out of bed that morning and that is okay too. Ending the year right will be personal and look different for everyone. I want you guys to think of the ways you’ve shown up for yourself this year and how you would like to show up going into the new year. This is the part where you take a moment to sit and reflect. It would be nice if you guys commented below, and if not it’s okay we’ll chat about it next time. If you guys would like more of my take on this, I’d be happy to do a follow up, and if you have any questions or need some advice or motivation you know where to find me.

Thank you for reading and thank you for sharing in advance 🤍✨

With love and gratitude always,

Your Earth Angel Amethyst